Self-Love (in 9 easy -?- steps)

“Your yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection. ”  – Buddha

I have finally taken a serious decision of practicing self-love consistently and sincerely.  It’s something I admit I’ve had issues with for a long time and, lately, I came to realize it was giving way to things I didn’t want for myself and that my own relationship to myself would set the tone for every other relationship I’d have.

The practice of self-love, I find, is often discouraged, in today’s society, easily seen as selfishness or egocentricity, but why not value the individual instead of sacrificing it to the benefit (and that’s arguable) of the herd?

In general, I believe that issues and even diseases are often rooted in some level in our own self-love so why not make self-love a priority, the solid basis for “the rest”.

You are the only you that exists.  That alone should be worth your best shot at appreciating who you are.

Here are 9 things I’ve narrowed it down to in order to give that underrated ego a little boost.

  1.  Be kind, because it’s good energy and it doesn’t cost you a damn thing.
  2. Stand up straight and smile.  It changes your energy and how others react to you.
  3. Practice self-grooming.  Be well groomed and dress in a way that makes you feel good.
  4. Prepare your day in advance, everyday, so you have less you need to think about.  Stay organized and focused.  Know what you will wear and eat tomorrow.
  5. Be grateful and practice awareness of positive thoughts:  pay special attention to negative self-talk and make it a habit to shift it to exactly the opposite.
  6. Study, read and learn something new each day.  Practice what you have learned. Knowledge and developing your skills build confidence.
  7. Trial and errors…  are your friends in disguise.  Don’t be afraid to go out there, give it your best attempt and fail (even miserably).  Chances are you’ll end up learning even better from this and maybe even meet guides along the way.
  8. Exercise.  Endorphines.  We love endorphines.  Some days, I’ll admit, I don’t have the time or energy (or motivation) to do it.  So I go for a 10 minute walk if that’s all I can do.
  9. Eat as healthy as you possibly can.  As cliche as it is, our body is such an amazing machine, and you are in control of the fuel you’re giving it.  Eat well and your body will thank you for it.


That’s pretty much my mantra of the moment.  I still have a lot of work to do to be a master at all 9 steps but hey, we’re getting there, a bit closer every day.

We talk a lot about making the world a better place and we will, each and everyone of us, starting with ourselves.

 Aramis xx

We were born to glory
It filled us up with love
Living out the story
Since lightening from above
Yes we can have it all
We can be merciful
Go dancing at the ball

But we’ve been talking lately
About just what we feel
Caught in earthly drama
Instead of walking free
But we can hold it all
Outside ourself dissolved
Yes we can hold it all again

The light goes on and on
Forever it has shone…
Forever you

– “The Glory” by Royal Wood (featuring Sarah Slean)

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